Is this actually serious?

Sort of. The questions cover what couples research actually looks at: conflict, repair, affection, money, future, family, play. The personas are three AI models doing their best impression of three useful kinds of friends. Use it to start a conversation. Don’t use it to diagnose anything.

Are my answers private?

They sit on our server just long enough to render the result, then they’re gone. We don’t sell them, we don’t email you, and no analytics company is watching you move the sliders. We do read a few at random sometimes, to tune the personas. That’s it.

Two would just argue. One would just be confident. Three is the smallest number where you can take a vote.

An over-thinker. The kind of person who builds an app instead of having the conversation.

nomi.love· the council

3 personas walk into your relationship.

A therapist. A stoic. The friend who actually tells you. Tact is not on the menu.

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How it works

1
One of you starts.
Ten questions. Eight sliders, two short answers. Two minutes, max.
2
You send the link to your partner.
Same questions. Zero peeking.
3
The Council convenes.
3 personas. 3 verdicts. They rarely all agree.

Exhibit A

A taste of the council.

Meet Sam & Jordan. Together two years. Sam picks fights to feel close. Jordan goes quiet to stay safe. Here’s what the council said.

[ THE THERAPIST ]

“Two people learning to want the same thing.”

I notice a through-line: Sam reaches when they fear distance. Jordan retreats when they fear escalation. That’s not a problem — it’s the friction itself. What stands out is that both of your wishes were small things, which means the love is intact and the language is mismatched. The repair instinct is there in both of you, just on different timers. Try this once this week: when one of you needs space, name how long. “I’ll be back in twenty minutes” lands differently than silence.

[ THE STOIC ]

“What you share is more durable than what you dispute.”

You disagree about pace, not direction. That is an easier disagreement than most. The urge to close every distance is not love — it is fear of distance. The instinct to retreat is not safety — it is a choice. Both are within your control. The disturbance, as the old line goes, is not in the relationship; it is in your judgment of it. What’s up to you, today, is whether to respond to each other or to your forecast of each other.

[ THE BESTIE ]

“Two people building IKEA furniture, occasionally weeping.”

Okay so. Sam, picking fights to feel close is a speedrun at intimacy and we love that for you, but it’s giving “I’d rather be wrong than alone” and Jordan is over there trying to read the manual in another room. Jordan, going quiet is not a strategy, it’s a vibe and the vibe is “don’t perceive me.” You both wrote the wish for something small, which means the relationship is fundamentally fine and you’re just bad at the same five-minute window. Honestly? Hot. Annoying, but hot.

Sample takes. Real ones reference whatever you and your partner actually wrote. Sam and Jordan don’t exist; their problems do.

Exhibit B

The obvious questions.

Q1
Is this actually serious?
A
Sort of. The questions cover what couples research actually looks at: conflict, repair, affection, money, future, family, play. The personas are three AI models doing their best impression of three useful kinds of friends. Use it to start a conversation. Don’t use it to diagnose anything.
Q2
Are my answers private?
A
They sit on our server just long enough to render the result, then they’re gone. We don’t sell them, we don’t email you, and no analytics company is watching you move the sliders. We do read a few at random sometimes, to tune the personas. That’s it.
Q3
Why 3 personas?
A
Two would just argue. One would just be confident. Three is the smallest number where you can take a vote.
Q4
Who built this?
A
An over-thinker. The kind of person who builds an app instead of having the conversation.